Miles Striker on The Most Surprising Things About Being A Kink & Fetish Porn Star – Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr. Joe Kort

Have you ever wondered what working in the fetish and kink adult movie scene is like? On this week’s episode, Joe meets Miles Striker – one of the most well-known actors in the adult fetish scene right now. Miles and Joe talk about the nitty gritty of the porn industry and Miles gives the lowdown on getting down for the camera. Joe asks, ‘What’s it like acting out scenes involving fetishes like, macrophilia (a fascination with or a sexual fantasy involving giants)?’ And, how exactly did Miles, an Iraq veteran, get into BDSM porn?

Dr. Joe Kort:                       Hello, and welcome to this week’s Smart Sex, Smart Love. I’m Dr. Joe Kort, and today the title of our podcast is The Most Surprising Things About Being A Porn Star According To A Porn Star. Porn stars have it made. On the surface, having sex with beautiful people for money sounds like a no brainer, fun career, but while it can be a dream not enough people put emphasis on the job part. This week I’ll be talking to actor Miles Striker, one of the most famous guys in the adult fetish and kink scene right now. Miles is not only a major awards nominee for various fetish roles he’s done, including the West Coast and Las Vegas, and by the way he just won best male web cam performer in 2019. He’ll tell us all about that. He’s also known for his in your face verbal dominance in straight and gay humiliation and dominant scenes.

A very nice guy, but being a method actor means he actually becomes the role with very little direction needed. Whether he’s role playing a cop arresting someone for speeding, putting his feet in someones face, or then shrinking them down to nothing, also known as macrophilia, which is a fascination with or a sexual fantasy involving giants. It’s typically a male fantasy with the male playing the smaller part entering, being dominated, or being eaten by a larger woman or man. What’s it really like being a porn star? This week’s podcast is all about getting down to the nitty gritty of the porn industry and asking Miles to give the lowdown on getting down for the camera. Hi, Miles, welcome to the show.

Miles Striker:                     How are you doing?

Dr. Joe Kort:                       Good. Is that a good introduction for you?

Miles Striker:                     Yeah, yeah. That pretty much works. I have 12 websites. Really, the introduction would be forever because I do over 250 fetishes.

Dr. Joe Kort:                       I know, I saw that. We didn’t know what to do, so we just did those. Maybe we could start with what got you into doing all this?

Miles Striker:                     Well, basically, I would say that when I got home from Iraq I had a lot of issues, like most vets do. Well, I found BDSM. I went to a dungeon club and I got whipped for the first time. Next thing you know, I found comfort in it. It became my new therapy. BDSM, I studied, I learned, got into it. Ten years later, I go into actually the same event that I just booked, Fetish Con. I see a whole bunch of people doing things, and I really realized that I’ve been doing this for ten years, I’m pretty good at it, and I kinda want to walk a red carpet. I was like, I’ll just do this. Didn’t think it would go anywhere, and now here I am.

Dr. Joe Kort:                       It became natural for you, a natural progression?

Miles Striker:                     Oh, yeah. Exactly. One of the beautiful things is how I got started, I never had an in. I never had a porn star girlfriend to get me in. I just was like, here I am and yeah, I’ll do that, yeah, I’ll do that. I used to do this thing on a radio station, was try to figure out what I wouldn’t do.

Dr. Joe Kort:                       I can just see people listening and thinking to themselves, well, he came back from Iraq, he was a vet, that caused him to get into BDSM. Is that true or were you into it before?

Miles Striker:                     No, no. Before, I was always a little just different. I would sit around and I would study things and look at things, but I never really explored it. I joined the military right at 18, and I always remembered when I got stationed in Hawaii they said, “There’s a club here called the dungeon.” I’m like, “Ooh.” Then they go, “But none of you are allowed to go there.” I’m like, “Aw,” and everybody laughs. They’re like, “Don’t laugh too hard because there’s someone in that crowd that’s dying to go,” and I went, “Yeah, that’s me.”

Dr. Joe Kort:                       You went, right?

Miles Striker:                     I had to wait. Well, no, I had to wait til I was out of the Army to go because they had spies in there. They had literal military NP’s that would go there to look for our military haircuts to catch you.

Dr. Joe Kort:                       Oh, wow.

Miles Striker:                     I had to go all the way through the military with the itch. Then finally when I was out and I was going through my issues, I was homeless, I was getting into fights, I couldn’t figure out what the hell was wrong with me, finally I was like, you know what? Hey, the Army can’t tell me no anymore, so I went to Detroit and went to my first dungeon party.

Dr. Joe Kort:                       Oh, you did that here in Detroit? I didn’t know that.

Miles Striker:                     Oh, yeah. Yeah. Well, I grew up in Michigan.

Dr. Joe Kort:                       Oh, that’s right. That’s right. I forgot about that. You grew up here, so you were here, and you went to your first Dungeon party and you enjoyed it.

Miles Striker:                     Yeah. Well, I walked in. I started getting known as my real name, that guy, because I would go to these dungeon parties and I guess people were like I had really good energy. I would play with everyone not knowing a soul walking in, and walking out everybody was like, who the fuck was that guy?

Dr. Joe Kort:                       Wow. Then you became more interested and more aware that you liked being in this fetish and kink scene, right?

Miles Striker:                     Yeah. Quite literally, I was going from getting into fights. I would go to bars and literally try to pick up somebody’s girlfriend, not to get the girl but just to get into a fight. Now I found a healthy outlet where we’re all consenting adults, and I’m getting tied up and beat. Then with that further went into me being mentored as a dominant where I started to learn how to safely tie up, beat, and do all sorts of different things in this community as a dominant. Now I really don’t have labels. I don’t sit around and say, “Oh, I’m a dom, or I’m a submissive, or I’m this, or I’m that.” I say, “Hey, let’s go get a cup of coffee and see what happens.”

Dr. Joe Kort:                       Originally, you started out as submissive and learned the ropes, so to speak. Now you were mentored, like you said, to become more dominant, so you can be anything without the labels. You get into the scene, whatever it calls for.

Miles Striker:                     Exactly. Whatever feels right. This past weekend I shot over, what, 18 scenes this past week. I’m tired.

Dr. Joe Kort:                       I’m sure.

Miles Striker:                     I went from I have this female dom, she plays my sister, and she can’t figure out anybody who is as sadistic as her brother to watch over her slaves while she goes on her honeymoon, so she drops her slaves off to me. We do this film in my Airbnb where I’m just giving her slaves a whole bunch of shit. I actually was killing two birds with one stone because I got my Airbnb cleaned while I was doing that scene.

Dr. Joe Kort:                       Let me just ask you what do you do when someone recognizes you? Do people go, “Oh, my God, I know you from porn.” Have you been discriminated against? Have you been a rockstar, both?

Miles Striker:                     Oh. Oh, God. College. College was fun. When I was going to college I had somebody walk up and you get these looks. You can always tell the look from a distance. I’m sitting there, I got my backpack on, I’m ready to listen to things. I’m not in Miles Striker freaking rockstar freaking mode, or slated to talk about what I do. This kid just looks at me and goes, “Are you Miles?” I’m like, “Yeah.” Then he’s like, “Oh, my God, I’ve seen all your,” right in the middle of the courtyard of the freaking college, “I’ve seen all your stuff and I’m a big fan!” I’m like, “Oh, man.”

Dr. Joe Kort:                       Well, I have to say-

Miles Striker:                     He just-

Dr. Joe Kort:                       -go ahead.

Miles Striker:                     Yeah, but then there’s airports. Vegas, Vegas is where most of it happens. Vegas actually, my off time is usually actually there. I hang out in my hotel room. I call other people over that understand or get it in the industry. We all just hide in my hotel room.

Dr. Joe Kort:                       Well, you’re doing a service, so let me just say this because there’s not a lot of kink and fetish porn. It’s growing, but I think you’re engaging in certain kinds of things that people can’t find real fast online, so it’s probably very appreciative for somebody to say, “Oh, my God, you’re fulfilling a fantasy that I can’t find very easily on the internet.” Isn’t that true?

Miles Striker:                     Yeah. Well, that’s actually the big fun behind it. One of the biggest misconceptions is that we make a lot of money, because we don’t. We don’t make much money at all, but you got to figure out that this become a lifestyle. This becomes your life. The thing is, my favorite part is I sit there and I think about all these different fetishes that I do and I take the time to study them. I take time to understand them, because a lot of the things is I put forth the effort that I want put forth towards my fetishes if somebody were to do mine for theirs. My own personal enjoyment in this is to know that there’s these people out here that have these lives.

They have all these little things that they hide because, I don’t care who you are, we all got fetishes. We all got secrets. We all, and they share those with me. I get to know these people on a much more personal, deeper level. Then they trust me with them that when they have that alone time, when they have that moment to just say screw the world, screw all my problems, screw all that. I’m going to sit here and have me time with my own weirdness and have fun with it, that’s that moment that they’re watching me. That’s that moment that I don’t want to screw up for them. It’s a personal enjoyment to be able to provide that.

Dr. Joe Kort:                       Well, my favorite line that fits right so well here that you say is that we’re not making love, we’re making movies. Oh, my God. I just love that. That’s your quote, and you really put a lot of effort into being an actor and making the movie to satisfy the consumers that are watching this. Right?

Miles Striker:                     Yeah, yeah. That’s what it’s all about. It’s not about us. That’s the biggest thing I try to tell people. If you come into this industry and you think that, I get it all the time, “Oh, you get to have sex with hot women.” It’s like, I don’t even remember half the women. I remember where the camera was. I remember what the lines were. I remember what attitude I needed to have. I remember what person do I need to become to sell this?

Because you’re not making love to each other, you’re making love to the camera. You’re making a movie. That line actually came from Fet Con, what, a year ago or two years ago? There was a kid who was brand new, and he came and talked to me. He was like, “Oh, my God. I had this really, really good scene, and this beautiful, hot woman. We had such a connection on camera, and now we’re off camera and she’s thinking I’m a creep and stuff because I keep on saying, hey, we should go on a date.” I’m like, “Dude, we’re not making love, we’re making movies, man.”

Dr. Joe Kort:                       I love it.

Miles Striker:                     Like, “All that was fake.”

Dr. Joe Kort:                       It’s so true. It’s so true. Let me just ask you, you say the difference between gay porn and gay humiliation, and you’re a straight actor who is doing these scenes and you’re doing them with women too, can you talk about the differences, and what the difference is when you’re doing it with women and men and all of that?

Miles Striker:                     Well, the biggest thing is this. When I first got in this industry, I was trying to get into straight porn. Because I’m straight, but I have no problems with anybody and what they’re into or anything like that, but I was trying to get into straight porn and, like I said, I didn’t have that girlfriend or anybody to really get me in. What happened was I did all the stuff that no straight performer wants to do. I got fucked with strap ons. I did all sorts. I mainly just did all the submissive stuff, but I purposely was out of shape, didn’t have a beard, nothing like that because I knew that I was going to switch to submissive Miles to in your face Striker. Basically, when I started to study the Fem Dom aspect and really, really look at it-

Dr. Joe Kort:                       Wait a minute, people won’t know what Fem Dom means. What is Fem Dom?

Miles Striker:                     Fem Dom is female domination. I was getting dominated by females when I first started. I started to really study it and look at it, because as a business I don’t want people leaving my website. I want people to stay with me. When you’re doing Fem Dom, you’re basically a prop. People would watch my Fem Dom scenes, then they follow the woman to her website because that’s the side. Men are obviously going to follow to the women’s website, so I was like, how do I get these men to stay on my website? Well, in female domination straight men love being denied by women, so why wouldn’t gay men want to be denied by a straight man?

Dr. Joe Kort:                       This is brilliant. This is brilliant. It’s true. Then what? Then you started making those kinds of movies?

Miles Striker:                     Yeah. Basically, I just started making videos. It was a year in the making of just making these videos where I would just light up a cigarette. I grew out my beard, I got in shape. I would light up a cigarette, and just sit back and tell men how much they couldn’t have me.

Dr. Joe Kort:                       Right, so that’s what you mean-

Miles Striker:                     And-

Dr. Joe Kort:                       -go ahead.

Miles Striker:                     Well, the thing is, there was already gay porn stars doing this. I ended up taking pretty much their entire clientele because there’s already gay porn stars doing it, but the only difference was they were obtainable because they could go and look up gay porn scenes that they were in.

Dr. Joe Kort:                       Right, and you don’t have any of that.

Miles Striker:                     Exactly. I’ve never done gay porn. The thing is now I’m appealing to a gay audience, but the only scenes that they can find me in are straight porn. Which, now I’ve actually got gay men watching my straight porn scenes, just as much as a straight man would watch them.

Dr. Joe Kort:                       Now, a lot of people would say, because I’ve written a lot about this, you’re coming to life right from my book when I say that straight men will engage in sexual turn ons for other people through money, through getting acting, through porn, so really people would say nope, he’s not straight. If he’s doing this, he’s really gay. What do you say to that?

Miles Striker:                     What I say to that is watch one of the videos and then look me up. Why don’t you Google me? Because, guess what? I could make a lot more money doing gay porn, so if I was really gay why wouldn’t I be doing it?

Dr. Joe Kort:                       You don’t make as much money doing these other things?

Miles Striker:                     I wouldn’t say that now.

Dr. Joe Kort:                       It’s gotten better.

Miles Striker:                     Now it’s gotten to a point where the more I am not gay, the more I don’t do gay porn, the more money I’m going to make.

Dr. Joe Kort:                       I see.

Miles Striker:                     Because, like I said, there’s no way that I am obtainable to these men, but the fact that I give them enough attention to talk to them, give them enough attention to act … I have one video where I do have a man worshiping my feet. What it is is he’s begging me, he’s pleading, begging and pleading for me to let him suck my dick. How the video ends is I end up stopping, I look him dead in the face and I say, “That’s the closest you’re ever going to get to anything with me,” and I spit in his face. It became one of the number one male foot worship videos for three months in a row.

Dr. Joe Kort:                       This is something that in real life for gay men, and even maybe bisexual men, is very painful and horrifying to have happen, but erotically being able to play with it through a porn scene and through even a scene with somebody live it’s very exciting for them and it’s different.

Miles Striker:                     Oh, no. Go ahead, I’m sorry.

Dr. Joe Kort:                       Oh, no. Go ahead. I just want to say it’s different.

Miles Striker:                     Yeah. Well, what it is is this. This is what you’ve got to understand when it comes to creating these scenes, is this is fantasy land. That’s the biggest thing, why do we want to pay for something in fantasy land and have it be the way things are in real life? When I first started doing this, saying the word faggot, I never liked that word. Never liked it. I won’t lie, there was a couple times where I’d have to look in the mirror and be like, okay, we don’t really think like this. This isn’t us, but the more you say it, that’s a trigger word. It’s the fact that it’s so taboo. It’s a word that you wouldn’t really be called on the streets unless it’s in a very, very derogatory way, but now I’m taking that word and I’m taking all these things and I’m taking childhood traumas, I’m taking things that … I found out a lot of my fan base, they got made fun of in high school. Well, I’m also using that.

Dr. Joe Kort:                       Because they’ve eroticized it.

Miles Striker:                     What was that?

Dr. Joe Kort:                       Yeah, because they’ve eroticized it and now they want to play with it. Now they’re in control.

Miles Striker:                     Exactly. You’re taking a childhood trauma and you’re turning something positive into it. You’re making it fucking sexual, and you’re making it fun. You’re making it to where it’s like, you know what? Okay, that happened to me. That was my past. That sucked, but now why look at it as, oh, my God? Let’s sit here and live in our past and be like, oh, well this sucked. Fuck, man, let’s jerk off to it.

Dr. Joe Kort:                       What I love about the way you’re talking about your roles it’s like an actor, you’re listening to an actor. They have to play roles and say horrible things to people, and do horrible things in their movies that are not porn, in mainstream movies. Why would it be any different for you? I really appreciate you explaining that in a character actor way rather than I’m just being who I am, and this is how I live and I really believe in faggot. That’s not who you are.

Miles Striker:                     No, no. Not at all. I get all the time, like we were talking about earlier, that people, I see the look. Some of them are too afraid to approach me. Then it’s like finally I’m like, “Hey, what’s up? I already see the look.” Like, “Oh.” Then we talk and they’re like, “Oh, my God, you are so much nicer than I’d ever thought you’d be.” I’m like, “Yeah, well, you ain’t paid me yet.”

Dr. Joe Kort:                       Right, once the money’s in your hand then you can play the role.

Miles Striker:                     Yeah, now I can be mean.

Dr. Joe Kort:                       Do you ever feel badly, do you ever walk away thinking, God, I just demeaned that woman, I just demeaned that man, whoever’s watching my webcam movie, I feel bad. Do you ever feel that way?

Miles Striker:                     The only times I’ve ever felt bad was when I’ve had to sit down and wonder, who fucked with this persons head before they talked to me. Because the thing is is that I’ve had people call up and want me to tell them to kill themselves for being gay, I won’t do that.

Dr. Joe Kort:                       You have some boundaries, go ahead.

Miles Striker:                     Go ahead.

Dr. Joe Kort:                       No, you have boundaries. Right? You won’t do it if they want you to talk to them about killing themselves.

Miles Striker:                     Yes, of course not. No. What I actually do is I now will spin that. I try to spin it into staying in their fetish, but make them feel better about themselves in it.

Dr. Joe Kort:                       That’s awesome. How would you do that?

Miles Striker:                     I’m not sure exactly, but one of the best things I ever heard, because now I do Pro Domming, live Pro Dom sessions across the country, there’s one big thing that a lot of people don’t understand is that just like women, the male scene too, it’s like these pretty little non mentored pretty little men and everything, or these pretty little women that have no idea what they’re doing. Go, “Oh, my God, I can just be pretty and I can talk mean to people and they’re just going to give me money.” That’s the way that they look at it. Me, I’m never taking a dime from anybody unless I knew what they were getting for it. When you do this stuff, what you’re doing is you’re breaking a person down. When you’re breaking a person down, you’ve got to understand them and you’ve got to understand their life. You got to really, really just pay attention because you need to put them back together.

Dr. Joe Kort:                       That’s really good.

Miles Striker:                     That’s part of the responsibility, because you can’t just break somebody down and leave them like that. You break a person down, then you put them back together. Really, all it is is just another form of therapy. It’s the same exact thing as me coming out of the military and me realizing that I like whips, being whipped. This past Sunday I had a man … Because I haven’t done a scene for myself in a long time. I started to have really bad flashbacks this year because I haven’t done any scenes for myself because I’ve been doing all these scenes for other people on camera. After my awards show, I decided to treat myself. I had a friend who sharpened up a razor sharp knife, and he cut me 22 times across my chest.

Dr. Joe Kort:                       Did you enjoy that? Was that erotic for you?

Miles Striker:                     That’s my thing. It’s not erotic for me, but it’s a tension release for me. A lot of this stuff sometimes isn’t even sexual. A lot of this stuff is more of a mental tension release, or more taking somebody back to a trauma and then making it better by putting them back together afterwards. This was something with me in Iraq, an adrenaline rush and everything. This man cut me 22 times into pieces and I was a bloody mess. Then through that he just looks at me and he’s like, “Get your bloody ass over here and give me a hug.” That’s how you end it. Then you talk about it, and then you go through emotions of when you’re coming down from that adrenaline rush. Same thing with my fans, they come down from the rush of me saying all these things, and then I can talk to them about it.

One of the biggest things I got this webcam award for is actually literally me giving aftercare on webcam. Just taking care of somebody and reminding them, hey, you know what? You’re human. You’re a person. You’ve got things going on. You’ve got a life. Sometimes a lot of these men, they’re so held up in their holes. They’re so held up in their lives and there’s so much going on. Just that moment to let the fuck go. Let me handle it. Let me tell you all the freaking things that will just drive you freaking crazy and insane, but then again you’re now letting go of everything. The only thing you’ve got to worry about is my voice for that moment. Now, when we’re done, everything’s over, let’s talk about how we can put you back together and make you stronger to handle your life in a much more constructive way.

Dr. Joe Kort:                       Let me interrupt you because of time. We may even want to have you back if you’re willing to another time, because what you just said was important. People don’t know that some people even like to be flogged and they always think it’s erotic. They’re into it, they’re going to get off on it, they’re going to masturbate to it later, but what you described, even about being cut, is that it’s a stress reliever. It’s really similar to teenagers, or anybody who has been sexually abused, when they’re cutting or even piercings can be a stress relief. I think when people hear that, I think they’d be shocked and mortified, like why would he do this? But you’re doing it with another adult, consensually and safely, and it’s a stress relief for you. Isn’t that right?

Miles Striker:                     Exactly, yes. I’ve written articles on how to have safe consensual sex. It’s like this man who cut me, I found it to be the most sweetest thing in the world that he spent an entire day sharpening a knife til it was razor sharp because he knows me as a porn star, I can’t have scars.

Dr. Joe Kort:                       Yeah, so he knew what he was doing.

Miles Striker:                     The only way to get cut to not have scars is to have a razor knife.

Dr. Joe Kort:                       This is going to definitely demand another podcast. I hope you might come back. Will you promote whatever you want to promote here? Where can people find you? Twitter? Where?

Miles Striker:                     You can find me on Twitter @MilesStriker. M-I-L-E-S S-T-R-I-K-E-R. You can find my crazy just all sorts of fetishes all over the place at MilesStriker.com. You can find the gay humiliation that I do at StraightGayHumiliation.com, and coming soon, this is one of my favorite things, coming soon we’re working on AmericanFetishStory.com. It’s going to be a spin off of American Horror Story, where the first episode is a cooking show with me and it backs out and I have a woman basically tied up like a Thanksgiving turkey. We’re really, really trying to push the envelope with it.

Dr. Joe Kort:                       That’s awesome. You’re doing so much stuff. You’re one of the smartest people I know in this field, and I love talking to you. I hope we can do this again, Miles. I’d love it.

Miles Striker:                     Oh, definitely. Thank you so much for having me.

Dr. Joe Kort:                       Thank you, take care.

Miles Striker:                     Yep, bye.

Dr. Joe Kort:                       Bye.